Is change hard for you to accept or embrace? Are you one who fears change? Often we tend to reject change because we become accustomed to predictability in our lives. Predictability makes our lives easier, simpler or otherwise comfortable. I know this is true for me. I like to know what’s next. I like to know my next step so I have to endure less unwanted surprises popping up in the midst of my life. I have had much change take place in my life over the past several years, and I’m currently in a place of transition yet again. In fact the very thing I want right now is for a little predictability. (God, feel free to oblige me). However, it’s the ups and downs I’ve faced that have allowed me to get to a place where I can now embrace change.
I’ve been there. You know… that point where you have everything planned out. You know exactly how the next year to 5 years is going to go, so you set out to work your plan and (as Martin would say) BLADOWW!!! In comes change and a whole lot of it. My husband and I had things planned before we married. In the middle of planning our perfect wedding we decided to get married immediately. There was so much going on in our lives at the time that it was better to go ahead and jump the broom right away. Then I got pregnant 2 months later instead of 2 years later. Hmm…Ok. Then we thought we would be renting but decided purchasing our home would be a great idea. So we did. However, after about a year we had buyers remorse and also wanted to relocate cities. Then, after giving birth to our baby came many other unexpected experiences and events. I became a stay at home mom after being married for a year and a half. The career life I thought I’d live was fading quickly. You see, I never expected to be married either. Someone once said; if you want to make God laugh tell him your plans. He must have been rolling that year!
That’s just a snippet of the many things that have switched up on me in life. I can honestly say that I wouldn’t change it even if I could. If we never allow the path we take to veer a little, or sometimes a lot, there are many things we would miss out on.
Change has helped me to learn to relinquish some control. I am the kind of person who likes to control every aspect of life as much as possible. I would thoroughly plan things out and do all I could to stick to that particular plan because, as I saw it, that was the only surefire way to have things work out as close to perfect as possible. This caused me to be a worried person. Since I learned to first, trust God, and relinquish control I have worried less. I have seen that life works out even when things don’t go as desired. I have also seen things work out better than expected. I am a more positive person than I ever was before.
In order to see progress in life change is necessary. Why? Without progress, without things moving and transforming, you get stagnation. This is similar to stagnant water. Stagnant water doesn’t flow, and it stinks. Flowing water moves and is fresh and full of life. If we want to grow, then things will have to constantly change in our lives. What kind of things? I’m glad you asked. All things such as our thought process, our status, our location, our finances… etc.
With maturity comes a change in the way you think. If you want to marry the love of your life then you have to transition from single to married. If you want to see progress in your financial state you will have to change either the way you spend, save or how much you have coming in.
Consider all of the changes a baby goes through in order to reach adulthood. If a baby never experiences change then they would never learn how to walk, talk or eat. Parents would have a baby and have to feed, bathe and carry them for the rest of their lives. They would never grow. With parenting comes a life full of continuous changes. However, parents learn to go with the flow as their children continue to develop. We have to be the same way; realizing that we are developing as well.
I look back and see that change has been a blessing. Change has placed me somewhere in life I never thought I’d be. I love where I am. I have to continue to embrace this. Ladies, continue to keep a positive outlook no matter what you face. Always speak positive things and remind yourself, every time the unexpected happens, that good will come from this! Remember, without change one cannot progress. This makes change an invaluable must have! And when life switches out your sweet, delicious strawberries for sour lemons… make lemonade and keep it moving!