Hey Ladyloves! Hope this post finds you well today! So tell me, how does one prepare for, what I call, the journey of a lifetime?
Well, the sad truth is, most do not. Marriage is more than just cake samplings, diamonds, and trips to the bridal boutique. That’s just wedding preparation — and the wedding is not the marriage.
Saying “I’Do” is easy. See, I just said it… “I’Do”… Said it again. That’s the easy part.
Actually being successful in marriage takes more effort and work. While you’re single it is the ideal time to get ready for that step and increase your odds of success. These 5 ways will help prepare you for marriage.
When I was younger I thought I knew myself pretty well. I never understood why my mom always said you don’t really know yourself until around your mid-twenties. I now know it’s because it takes time to learn who you are. When we’re younger interests are constantly changing and we’re learning more and more. As this continues we get more assured in what we like, dislike, and truly desire out of life. Then we can be more certain of the type of husband we want and need.
It’s important to focus on areas that could use improvement. This calls for self-examination. I got married with some issues that should have been worked out beforehand. Issues like insecurity, jealousy and fear. To the glory of God, I don’t struggle with those issues anymore. None of us will ever be “issue” free. But you can and should begin improving problem areas now.
While you await the glorious ringing of your wedding bells, or the reciting of intimate nuptials (haha I just had to say that), there is no need to sit around twiddling your thumbs! Begin building your life; whether that be going to school, working out your business plan, buying a house etc. Don’t wait. Your life is valuable whether you’re married or not. Some women have the mindset that they’ll accomplish everything once married. No, no, no. Start now, and once you’re married then together you can accomplish even greater things.
Submission establishes order in the family and home. Yes, wives should submit to their husbands. This in no way means allow yourself to be dominated or a doormat. It is honoring your husband and showing Him respect as you work together. Why? Because God made Him the head of the home. You must embrace submission in order to have a productive marriage.
To be one of the biggest decisions a person will make in their life, there is little education about it. I encourage you to look further than the wedding day, and discover the truth of what marriage is about. Realize what those vows mean. They’ll show up again very soon. If you’d like more resources to help with this just let me know in the comments.
Even before getting engaged, have a solid idea of what you want your future to be like. Yeah I know, It seems like a no-brainer, but many of us get married without having given this enough thought. We all know we want a happy marriage, a nice house and great careers. However, there is so much more to life than just that. Take time to think deeper about it. You don’t want to be on different pages with your beau.
Yes, you want the perfect man for a husband. Just make sure that he is getting a great woman for a wife. Use this time you have wisely by applying these tips and preparing yourself for that big moment in life. Well, that’s all ladies! At least for today. See you next week for 5 more great ways to prepare for marriage.
I love to hear from you. Do you have any suggestions for preparing for marriage? What did you find most helpful? Share your thoughts in the comment section below!