The day I left work, to stay home with our son, was one of the happiest times for me. Today’s post is for those of you wanting to stay home with your children one day, those who don’t see the importance of it and even for stay at home moms who have lost sight of their “why”. So what keeps me home on the days when I want to break free from those four walls? Why do I stay home when money is a little funny, and I know a job could easily double our income? Let me share with you the reasons why I still choose to be a stay home mom.
Our initial plan was to send the baby to daycare and I would keep working…
One day on my way to work all of that changed. I remember thinking, I cannot leave him; I just can’t do it. I’d miss him too much. He needs me. The thoughts rolled in one after another. I knew then I’d be a stay at home mom and not the working mother I’d expected. When I was working I would be gone from early morning to late evening. Those hours left me with enough time to nurse once in the morning and about three hours to spend with him before he went to bed. I missed seeing him crawl for the first time, I was being sent pictures of him laughing and playing and instead of breastfeeding I was pumping in a cold conference room while scarfing down my lunch. Feeling more like the babysitter, I began to wonder what the point was. Had I given birth to make him someone else’s obligation? After transitioning home, I began to realize the greater responsibility of parenting.
We live in an extremely wicked world. In this generation right is being called wrong, the unnatural is being called natural, many want to set their own standards to live by (which is no standard at all in a lot of cases) and everything is to be accepted. This is contrary to God’s will.
To raise a child to be godly in this day and time is no simple task…
Sin is paraded through every medium. Sex, drugs, alcohol, homosexuality, adultery and even murder is everywhere you turn. And with it is someone aiming to convince our babes that it’s “okay”. It is imperative that my husband and I are the greatest influence in his life, in order to teach him the way of God and instill in him the boldness to stand for what is right and against what it is wrong; be it popular or not. While he is in the stage of being raised and taught is the time for me to devote myself to teaching and preparing him for adulthood in this world. I don’t want to risk entrusting that to others… especially strangers who I have no clue about their values, what they believe or how they live.
I felt like my family deserved more of me than they were getting…
My husband took a second shift position and I worked first shift so we could take care of our son. I left before he woke up in the morning and returned in time to get a quick rundown of our son’s day and give him a kiss on his way out of the door. I was fed up with how things were. I didn’t want anything to take number one place over my family.
My sister watched my son for me and I remember leaving early from work so she could go handle some business. My manager said I’d need to find a backup for times like this. I was livid! I am his mother. After the babysitter, I am the backup. My husband’s job was to provide and that’s what he was doing; therefore we decided I’d step fully into the role God had given me. Does this mean I could never work? Absolutely not.
The example given in Proverbs 31 is of a woman who worked from early morning to late at night. Part of this work brought in extra income, but her family was never neglected. I felt like mine was and, therefore, decided to change that.
I am certainly not here to convince anyone to stop working. My intention is to share what led to my decision to be home and to help you see the critical importance of raising a child for a life in Christ. And to reassure you that, should you take that step or if you already have, God will always be with you. It was a step of faith to cut our income in half. But backed by God’s Word we took it and trusted that God would meet our needs, and He has never failed to do so.
Choosing to stay home and not work is a sacrifice, but it’s been better for my family as a whole and for my marriage. Nothing has ever given me such purpose or satisfaction, and I know it will always be one of the best decisions we ever make.
All of our situations and perspectives vary. I’d love to hear your perspective on staying home or being a working mother. Share in the comments!